This post is the fourth among the series, HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF YOU LIFE. No matter how knowledgeable, wealthy you are and regardless of the righteousness of your ideal wife, you will not be filled with complete happiness if you are not blessed with children. Even if you are blessed with children, if you have not followed the right principles in raising kids, they will be wrecking havoc to you in particular and the society in general.
Parents are created loving their children. They give them great concern, affection and care. Without such an innate love, the parents might not keep patient to rear the children. Those who do not love their children are surly odd people. Children need love and care to be brought up in a wholesome manner.
Just as seeds need water, care and nourishment to grow up to be trees that bear good and ripe fruits, children need nourishment and religious teachings to grow up to be strong, righteous and knowledgeable. It has been observed that the purpose of marriage is no merely getting a beautiful wife and seeking pleasure with her. But in the broader perspective of future, a marriage is sought for a happy life, good family and better afterlife.
To fulfill this purpose, a right spouse could be chosen as regards the religion conduct, manners and piety as I have shed light in the previous post. After marriage, a proper supplications help in the blessings and good children.
Islam suggest some beneficial rites, rituals and procedures for the upbringing of the children right from their birth. These soul be followed accordingly to get better results. While is in its infant stage, Adhan, Iqama, Tahneek, Aqeeqah and circumcision are to be performed. When the children grow , they should be introduced to the proper Islamic teachings and injunctions according to their age. They should also be familiarized with good Islamic manners as regards their parents, elders and kinfolks. They should be warned against bad practices such as backbiting, lying and abusing others. e.t.c.
Practical eduction should also be provided to them according to the right code of conduct. The love of learning and gaining knowledge should be bred in them. Bashfulness and pity should be fostered in them along with the encouragement to participate in social life by enjoining the good and forbidding the wrong.
Male and female children should be properly educated and specially trained according to their role in the future as husbands and fathers or good wives and mothers.
Children has a pivotal role to play in any society. These children are the Presidents Vice Presidents, Ministers, Senators, Ambassadors, Governors, Commissioners, Permanent Secretaries and chairmen of the future. The children are tomorrows Military Generals, Chief of Army Staffs, Inspector Generals, Police Commissioners and every other breed of people that constitute the security apparatus of any country. If children are raised properly, all these above mentioned people will be good in the society. That is why a properly raised kids are not only the pride of their parents, but the pride of the society at large.
“Allah's Messenger (pbuh) said: when a man dies, his acts come to an end, but three, recurring charity, or knowledge (by which people) benefit, or a pious son, who prays for him(for the deceased)”.
In an attempt to get the most out of your precious life, you must pay due attention and strive with knowledge and insight to RAISE BETTER CHILDREN. They will bring you much joy and happiness and help you live a life with little regrets.
Before we meet in the next post in this series, let me ask you. What kind of children do you want to raise?
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